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Helen Lorenz's avatar

Thank you for this. What a wonderfully written moving letter. I can’t speak. Thank you

Bobette Buster's avatar

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. This father's grief assuages mine own.

Ana Onatah's avatar

To find such composure so soon after a horrifying experience which means losing your child is extraordinary. This is so measured and vividly painted, I feel I am there. Perhaps that's what it was for, a tribute to his son, which at that moment so soon after his death was what little he felt he could do to honour him. And how many hearts it must have filled since then, what a gift to the world.

Stelladona's avatar

But he was Ken Kesey. A magician.

Ana Onatah's avatar

He was someone who had just watched his son die, and even for a magician this was a remarkable act that took huge courage, and I honour the human who could do that, whoever he was.

Pegra's avatar

Having buried all of my family, I can tell you that each death merits a novel. For however hard it was for Ken Kesey to write this letter to his friends, he shared his love and pride for his son with all of us, and we then think on our own loved ones who are no longer here. It's a hard read, but it is beautiful. Love to all who are grieving today.

Sara Benincasa's avatar

The fact that Wendell Berry was one of the recipients and is quoted…so beautiful.

Michael Kupperburg's avatar

So wonderfully blunt, straight forward, and honest in every word. Covering nothing, just letting it all be heard and seen, via words. Generous to a fault.

Andrea Foley's avatar

I’ve meant to save this when you published it previously. . Still as clear & moving as the first & second times. Thank you.

Raymond's avatar

Can hardly see to type for the tears in my eyes and running down my face. Thank you. 💔

C. Hope Clark's avatar

Oh my. I cried reading this. This father and all the family....such love. Thanks so much for sharing with us.

Stelladona's avatar

Do you know Ken Keasy???

Shal's avatar

Crying… I can’t imagine even being able to lift a pen to write at a time like this.

Asher Packman's avatar

There is so much in this one I can resonate with, from the characters it includes, I adore their words and music, to the experience of losing family in such a way. I am rent. Thank you. Thank you.

Laurie Erickson's avatar

Just beautiful. Still thinking on the gifts that each gave to make up Jed’s coffin, especially the lining donated by Mountain Girl, the phoenixes and the flames.

Thank you, it heals my heart on a recent personal loss; grief escapes absolutely no one.